The following is a quote from Master Repka De on lightsaber fighting. I think every Jedi should remember this:

"Do not see a lightsaber duel as a choice between winning and losing. Every duel can have many, many outcomes. When you concentrate solely on winning-in lightsaber duels as in everything else-you sully your victory. Winning becomes worse than losing. It is better to lose well than to win badly. And it is always better to end a duel peacfully than to win of lose."

Another Quote from Luke Skywalker-
"The lightsaber is the weapon of a Jedi Knight, though a true Jedi rarely uses it to settle a dispute. It is better to outthink and outmaneuver your opponent. But, when forced, a Jedi strikes quickly and decisively. In peacful times, the lightsaber is only a symbol of the fight we wage within ourselves-to keepus from taking the wrong path.